Live the life you love; love the life you live. by Asha Blake-Casiraghi-Venkatramanan-etc.

A lil intro before we start -- this is a FB note written by my dear dear friend, Asha. I met her back when I was in secondary school. She was the loud girl from the next class and I was prolly the cool kid from the other. LoL. Mebbe the latter ain't true but in any case, like any other great stories on friendship, we hit right off and put together, we were chaos. Okay. Not really, again, but we did make helluva lot of noise together and those 5 years we spent together was jammed pack with lottttssaaa fun. A million times more compared to the average SMK IJC student, along with Stef, Jas, XL and the rest of the bunch, defo. (Remember the dog in the box thing? LMAO.)

Anywhos.. to an unknowing outsider, she may come across as... actually I don't quite know cause I've never heard anyone speak ill of her. Except mebbe that she gets a lil too loud / out-of-hand most of the time. LoL. (Remember those stupid morning senamrobiks shit? ROFL.) But that's hardly a weakness. So, I'm gonna jump right to conl -- she's an extraordinary friend (and a great singer and a great dancer and a great person with extraordinary talentS) and I'm glad I've had the pleasure of knowing her. :)

Ok. Back to this article, yeah.. I thought it was really good so I asked her if I could post it on my blog to have it shared with the world. Or at least whoever comes here. ;) Every single word is hers. No editing required on my part cause what she wrote is the truth. In fact, there's lotsa important day-to-day reminders you can pick up by reading this, sooo.. enjoy! :D

Live the life you love; love the life you live.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010 at 1:02am

by Asha Venkatramanan

I've seen the above quote on Stef's anklet that she wears, only that was in chinese, I got the translation from her.

I've been reminiscing and been watching gymrama videos. I like Italy's coreography. It's like putting beautiful words into a routine. Like artwork, no? I mean that's probably the fundamentals of art; making it speak and reach out to the audience and at the same time being vague and different to each and every person.

The hard work and amount of training hours put into the routines barely show, because of the ease in which it is executed. The little quick things get missed, if you don't watch closely. It's become more complicated I think. With the new rules and marking system's and stuff. The collaboration done is made up of a million different intricate parts, something that is missed quite often, if you look at it in the macro sense that is.

Oh but it is so beautiful. Looking at the macro part of it. Because once you look too much at the intricacy, you lose the beauty of the entire thing all together.

Funny how it is so closely related to a lot of things in life. We sometimes worry too much about catching the petty details that we just forget how to live the macro life.

We constantly live our life, putting the people around us as yardsticks. As if their actions would justify ours?

Dad always said, never compare yourself to anyone whom you think is less than you, compare yourself the ones you look up to, only then you'd feel the drive to be better. I don't completely agree with this, but there is some truth to it.

I know I worry too much. About a ton of things I don’t have control over. I don’t spend enough time with the people who really matter. I dwell on the stupid things. I don’t even spend time doing things that are beneficial to me, other than the long hours of sleep I’ve been having.

Life is a learning process I guess. Some things take time to sink in, some things are instant.

I hate putting so much effort in things that aren’t working out right, or putting so much effort with the best hope, only to watch it all fall apart. Can’t say this for the academics though, these so far seem to have been going pretty well, with the mediocre effort I’ve been putting in. Oh, but let’s not jinx that now.

I want to be doing things I love, filling days with doing things that I enjoy and feel comfortable with. I want to lie in bed at night and feel satisfaction. Something I haven’t really felt in the last couple of months. It’s frustrating, knowing that I really want to be doing more, but lacking the drive to get out and do it. Instead I continue complaining and being unhappy.

I’ve learnt a lot though in the past year, especially from being in a relationship. It’s also like a gymrama routine sometimes, focus too much on the tiny things, you lose the fun in things. Always seen it from a third person point of view. In those cases, I only thought with my head, not my heart. Now, it’s hard to suppress the heart. One important thing I’ve learnt it to really be yourself, and accept the other for who they really are. It’s hard sometimes, clash of ideas and emotions. It’s a continuous effort, something you have to work at everyday, even in the smallest of ways. Effort, is what drives it. Don’t lose yourself. This is where it gets tricky. Something I’m still getting the hang of. It’s like swimming in the sea. It’s pretty underwater, but going too deep, and you may get into unwanted trouble. Stay on the surface and you never really see things from where it all happens. It’s a lot of give and take. Achieving the right balance of this, is also hard.

Fortunately, everything done, is worthwile. And this is what makes me happy.

It's amazing how she can produce so much noise and still have the brain capacity to think about such profound stuff at the same time. Most ppl can only do one.

So, tell me again, how awesome is she? :)))